What is the norm, and is this the norm the right way?

in society today, people have mutual codes of conduct, moral belief and general behavior. Laws are rules are set, and we live our lives with some conformity to a certain extent. This can differ between cultures, but it is the NORM. Is the right way? should we question it? are we brainwashed into acting this way? Who can tell anything that is born on this planet through a completely natural process how to live its life? We confirm to evade conflict, to fit in within society, but why should this be? I know what i think on this subject, but I'm just interested in other peoples views.